Romance and Romantically Challenged Men

Man’s entire mental approach to romance is worlds apart from the thinking of a woman. His thought process is basic, primeval. In fact, this primitive mindset is the reason men rationalize romance based on simplistic needs and not emotion.

Men will look at a cave and see nothing more than a hole in the ground where he can take shelter from the rain. A woman looks at the same cave and sees a home – a place nicely decorated with curtains and furniture, somewhere comfortable for her family.

From hole-in-the-wall to home, an example that shows how differently men and women can think when it comes to the fundamental aspects of a relationship.

Dating:

Man invented the wheel, so it should come as no surprise that the male population is enthused by any activity that revolves around this discovery. Monster trucks, motorcycle racing, or anything else that involves high speeds and dangerous driving, is a natural attraction for men. Exhaust fumes and the roar of vehicles without mufflers are to men what candles and soft music are to women – a turn-on!

The competitive side of man has him drawn to physical activities like football and hockey and he’s compelled to watch these warriors compete on the sports battleground. And you can’t get any more basic than wrestling – the ultimate show of manhood, one against one in animalistic combat!

What has this to do with dating? It’s quite easy – these activities go right to the man’s heart and he naturally wants to include his woman in what he enjoys. Understand the underlying difference in thought patterns and women can easily manoeuvre their men into a romantic evening. When it comes to movies, women like romance while men go for action. A woman will think ballet, the man thinks break dancing; women enjoy a stage performance, her man’s idea of a stage is the boxing ring.

Women can get the candle light dinner and moonlit walk along the beach - after the baseball game.

Romantic dinners:

Having something to eat is simply a means of replenishing ones strength, or an activity done during a family gathering – man never meant it to be a romantic effort. There was always a practical purpose for eating – and it had absolutely nothing to do with romance.

Basic man, basic cooking – barbeques, fried chicken, pizza and fast food. If you can wash it down with bottled beer, it’s good. If you can do that without having to get out of your jeans, it’s even better. Eating a meal wasn’t intended to be a prolonged event for man.

Knowing this, it may be wise for the woman to suggest a long night of unimaginable pleasure if her man will take his time at the dining room table.

Gifts:

If it can be taken apart, or used to take something apart, a man will be fascinated by it. If it makes loud noise, or can be hung on the workshop wall, he’ll want it. Hand tools, power accessories, and anything electronic – give your man a ratchet set and it’s like sex; add a compressor and he’ll have an orgasm.

In his role of handyman, tools are a natural gift for him. Considering this mentality, is it any wonder that a gift he selects for his woman happens to be a kitchen utensil, or microwave oven?

If you want your gift to be something personal, don’t leave the decision up to your man or you will probably be disappointed. Help him out and make a list of what you want – he’ll appreciate it.

Sex and intimacy:

A simple three letter, one syllable word that’s easy for men to remember, sex is a word developed for man. To a man, sex is as fundamental as eating – it’s another pleasurable project on his list of things to do. If he doesn’t have to get dressed up for dinner, he won’t. If he can have sex without foreplay, he will. If a woman wants her man to be romantic, she has to train him – but it shouldn’t be all that hard since men aren’t overly complicated. He’ll quickly learn that the longer he plays, the longer he stays.

Are men really romantically challenged? Some say they are while others defend man’s simplistic approach to love as being a product of his prehistoric heritage. Women have evolved into complex creatures and have to exercise patience while they wait for their men to catch up.